I have neither read nor heard of this book before, but the points that Tony summarizes are interesting. Here is an example:
"You don't sit around looking for reasons to do the right thing; it's the bad decisions that require creative reasoning."
This rings so true for me. We often spend a lot of time and energy trying to make the wrong thing fit. We rationalize why it's the right thing to do, never really believing it ourselves.
Why is this a challenge?
I would guess that for some, doing the right thing is scary, because failure would be much more devastating. As long as we are not really focused on what lights us up, failure is not as bad. But if we were to be unsuccessful doing what we are really passionate about, that would be too much too handle.
Does this apply to you? It does for me in some areas of my life, but not others. I think we are all a bit screwed up and neurotic about aspects of who we are.
Where have you held back? And what are the real consequences of not playing full out in this area?
Oddly enough for me, the area I have resisted conquering (and I know it is my resistance getting in the way) is my physical health. When I was younger, I was pretty buff and seemingly attractive to people. I started rising through the ranks during what I will call the gender abusive 80s and 90s (although I still see this today).
It was (and still is) most important to me to be acknowledged and accepted for my mind. I am really an analytical geek deep inside :-) But because several bosses and colleagues would make passes at me (very common in those days, pre-sexual harassment lawsuit boon), I never really knew what people were seeing and why I was moving up the ladder. This bothered me a great deal.
Same thing with guys I dated. I had many experiences with superficial jerks.
But that was then and this is now. I realize that this fear of not being viewed a success for my mind and capabilities lead to some decisions to defend the wrong path.
Seeing this is somewhat helpful, but only if this ah-ha is followed by action. And in addition to focused action, some beliefs need to be retired along the way, too.
We should not waste our vitality and happiness coddling our victim conversations.
I have started running again, and am doing pretty good. I always feel better after exercise. I was a born athlete - tennis, weights, running - and it will be fun to reacquaint myself with this side of me.
Perhaps age, too, helps us see the silliness in our hangups and stressors of the past. Also, things like health become so much more important as we approach middle age.
If you want to experience more breakthroughs, zero in on where you are defending the wrong approach!