I like these back to back posts from Steve Pavlina.
First, Why Do Intentions Take So Long to Manifest?
Second, The Power of Now.
Many of us intellectually get and agree with what might be called the science of success. It is interesting to explore what's getting in our way of being who we want to be at this very moment.
I agree with Steve when we writes:
Every thought is an intention. One of the greatest challenges with intention-manifestation is that you must drop all thoughts that conflict with your desired intention. You cannot hold thoughts like, “I hate being depressed,” while intending to be happy. “I hate being depressed” is an intention to remain depressed.
Virtually every day I get emails from people who write things like, “I’m so depressed, and I hate it.” Of course they’re depressed — they just intended it… with emotion. If you want to use intention-manifestation successfully, you must stop acknowledging what you don’t want. To acknowledge what you don’t want is to intend it, which means you will simply perpetuate its ongoing manifestation.
I think this is a big problem. What we focus on is decisive. If we focus on what we want to stop - "I don't want to be unemployed." or "I don't want to be fat." - we end up producing more of that undesired outcome, making the problem worse.
Start with one day, today. Ensure your self-talk and talk-talk is 100% about what you want to manifest. Count the number of times you catch yourself about to say or think something that will not serve your goal. Quickly redefine.
Start every day with this intention - to put the right possibilities into play. To define what you want and then get into focused action to manifest it.
I am starting a new training program. We are taking a 20 day trip in New Zealand in December - in six months. I have very specific and compelling goals and I have caught myself a couple times saying or thinking the thing I DON'T want. I find that I get better at it with practice and I am sure you will too.
It's really a bootstrapping affair, isn't it? I think Pavlina is right in that we have to learn to still our mind and "clear the ground" for positive work.
Buddhism has some of the best advice, IMO, for dealing with feelings like this. Don't censor them, don't feed them. Just let them be, and observe them and how they operate on your mind and body. Once they've passed through you, you can apply the counterprogramming (or "antidote") of positive thinking.
Posted by: Jay Allen | May 31, 2006 at 04:43 PM
Life bootstrapping - I like that. Setting ourselves up for success is key.
I don't know how long I would want to let counter-prodictive feelings just be, as they are holding me back as long as they are there. Interesting perspective though, thanks.
Posted by: Lisa Haneberg | May 31, 2006 at 10:18 PM