We talk to ourselves all the time. Our internal dialogue defines and gives meaning to everything including how we measure accomplishment, failure, and goals. Very powerful messages make up this dialogue and determine our overall definition of success. Our definition of success determines the choices we make and our actions. Imagine if we believed that winning arguments at any cost would make us successful. We would act like obnoxious control freaks and alienate those around us. This would not be a good result. By examining and redefining our definition of success, we can experience an immediate breakthrough and improved results.
What makes up our definition of success?
- Beliefs about what we need to do to be successful.
- Beliefs about what success looks like.
- Beliefs that help us be successful and beliefs that are harmful and counterproductive.
- Comparative assumptions about what has made others successful, and therefore might help us be successful.
- Beliefs that influenced by our role models, positive and negative.
- Beliefs we are not cognizant of.
- Beliefs we may not readily admit to or recognize until we have looked in detail at the cause of our behaviors and results.
- Beliefs that can be changed in an instant.
- Beliefs about what is expected of us.
- Beliefs that transcend behavioral tendencies and preferences.
- Need to be right
- Need for title and status
- Need to look good
- Need to be a part of the group
- Need to be in control
- Need to be acknowledged
- Need to get results
- Need for accuracy, perfection
- Need for peace and harmony
- Need to be smart
- Need for excitement
- Need to be liked
- Need to be proactive
- Need to do as your are told
- Need to be accountable
- Need to be “in the know”
- Need to be responsive
- Need for money
- Need to be important
- Need to feel accomplishment
- Need to be respected
- Need to solve problems
- Need for life balance
- Need to change things
- Need for self-management
- Need to be helpful
- Need to “save face”
- Need for safety, low risk
How do you know if your definition of success is serving you?
- If you are getting the results you and your manager (and company) desire, your definition of success is serving you.
- If you are not getting the results you desire, you need to change your definition of success.
Designing a Definition of Success that will support your goals
Create for yourself, a list of goals for 2009. These goals should articulate what you want to accomplish and how you want to be known.
Create Your Definition of Success
Define the beliefs or paradigms that will best support your goals for 2009. Then write down example behaviors that support these beliefs.
- Beliefs that support my 2009 goals
- Behaviors that will result from this Belief
Give it a shot and let me know how you do. Your definition of success is like a compass because it helps you steer toward your preferred future. It is like a filter because it helps you make choices that will be consistent with your goals.